EBook: When the Ass Speaks...You Should Listen!: Overcoming Narcissistic Spiritual Abuse

“When the Ass Speaks… You Should Listen!” is a profound and timely exploration of the ministry's sacred calling and profound leadership responsibility. This transformative book exposes the traits and dangers of narcissistic A.S.S. (Ambitious, Selfish, Sociopathic) leadership, which distorts Christlike servanthood, creating environments of fear, mistrust, and emotional exhaustion that harm congregants, staff members, and ministries.

Drawing on biblical wisdom, real-life insights, and practical guidance, this book examines:

• The traits of narcissistic leadership—including emotional manipulation, exploitation of authority, lack of empathy, and resistance to accountability.

• The spiritual and emotional impact of abuse on victims and church communities. The unspoken issue of domestic violence and narcissistic spiritual abuse prompts ethical and moral dilemmas for ministry leaders, staff members, and congregation members.

• Empowering survivors to reclaim their voice, establish boundaries, and find healing and hope through God’s truth.

• Strategies to dismantle toxic dynamics—fostering accountability, transparency, humility, and Christ-centered leadership.

Rooted in scripture and inspired by passages like John 13:34–35 and Philippians 2:3–4, this book offers a compassionate yet direct call to action for church leaders, congregants, and ministries. It challenges readers to create sanctuaries of healing and restoration by prioritizing love, justice, and humility.

Complete with comprehension questions, reflection questions, group discussion prompts, and study guides, “When the Ass Speaks… You Should Listen” equips readers with tools to address abuse, foster accountability, and transform ministries into beacons of hope, grace, and renewal. Readers can review a suite of assessments designed to illuminate the hidden impacts of narcissistic spiritual abuse, enabling individuals to recognize, process, and overcome the harm experienced. Assessments include:

* Narcissistic Spiritual Abuse Questionnaire (NSAQ)

* Spiritual Mood Disorder Questionnaire (SMDQ)

* Narcissistic Spiritual Abuse Trauma Assessment (NSATA)

* Adverse Spiritual Abuse Experience Questionnaire (ASAEQ)

* Impact of Narcissistic Spiritual Abuse on Interpersonal Relationships Questionnaire (INSARQ)

* Assessment of the Impact of Narcissistic Spiritual Abuse on Executive Functioning Skills and Physical Health

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Whether you’re a leader seeking to align with God’s purpose, a survivor searching for healing, or a congregation ready to rebuild trust and unity, this book is your guide to navigating the challenges of narcissistic leadership and embracing Christlike transformation.